Category Archives: Looking Back

When you can count the bones…

It breaks my heart every time I recognize that someone is struggling with their self-image. Society/media is very hard on women and men and none of us can live up to the constructed and false expectations. I do think that … Continue reading

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Fighting and finances: Airing dirty laundry

I came across an article this past week that spoke to me and pointed out something to me that I hadn’t considered. I’ve always known that my disdain for money was linked to growing up as a working-class kid with … Continue reading

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Counterintuitive Protection: A “child’s” perspective

“She wanted to kill me. What did I do? I was only a child, an infant at that, merely eight months old! Did I cry too loudly or too often? How could the thought enter her mind?! How could she actually pull out a knife? She’s … Continue reading

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Thoughts on moving and possessions

I’m in the middle of yet another life-altering move. I’ve had many of these in my lifetime. So far I’ve lived in five states (FL, NY, CA, PA, TX), with some repeats (NY, PA), and two countries (US and DEU, … Continue reading

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“You look great! Did you lose weight?” – Social shaming in disguise

The summer between my first and second year of college I came down with mono. I had been working around 30 hours a week and was around a lot of new people and staying up late. In the course of … Continue reading

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Kids say the darndest things: Talking to myself

In May 2004, I attended a conference in Maryland. At the time, I was working in San Antonio, TX, and my mother had just gone through two surgeries, chemotherapy, and radiation to treat breast cancer. She’s been in remission now … Continue reading

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Gingham: Fading into my genetics

While I was growing up, my mother loved gingham – I dare say she still does – and you could easily tell that she did. In our kitchen in Rome, NY, she had red gingham everything: curtains, place mats, a … Continue reading

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Groove is in the Heart

For as long as I can remember, there has been music in my life. My parents sing well and my dad plays the guitar and has since he was 17: my mom, brother, and myself, as well as some other … Continue reading

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Remembering Independence Day

Despite the atrocities that this nation has committed and of how the US government came to own the USA, the 4th of July – Independence Day – remains my favorite holiday. Even though the way that the US came to … Continue reading

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Valentine’s Day *almost* flowers

With Valentine’s Day approaching, I am thinking of past Valentine’s Days – some that have gone well, some that didn’t go much of anywhere, and others that went terribly wrong. My favorite of the “terribly wrong” Valentine’s Days was from … Continue reading

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